Abigail Garner was five years old when her parents divorced and her dad came out as gay. Like the millions of children growing up in these families today, she often found herself in the middle of the political and moral debates surrounding lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) parenting.
Drawing on a decade of community organizing, and interviews with more than fifty grown sons and daughters of LGBT parents, Garner addresses such topics as coming out to children, facing homophobia at school, co-parenting with ex-partners, the impact of AIDS, and the children's own sexuality.
Both practical and deeply personal, Families Like Mine provides an invaluable insider's perspective for LGBT parents, their families, and their allies.
About the Author
Abigail Garner is the creator of FamiliesLikeMine.com, a well-known website for LGBT families. Her writing has appeared in publications throughout the country, including a commentary in Newsweek that earned her the Excellence in Journalism Award from the National Lesbian and Gay Journalists Association. She also presents lectures and workshops on LGBT families for colleges, businesses, and conferences. She is a graduate of Wellesley College and currently lives in Minneapolis.
“Families Like Mine [is] a sort of Feminine Mystique about the children of gay parents, articulating their pride and their struggles with homophobia but also the grievances they have with their families.”
— New York Times Magazine
“An instant classic.”
— Time Out New York
“Garner offers insight into the gifts and challenges of being raised in families that are often labeled ‘controversial.’“
— Library Journal
“A profound book that captures many aspects of gay parenting that I have experienced personally. I strongly recommend Families Like Mine to any gay person with children and those who are considering parenthood.”
— Melissa Etheridge
“For those who champion 'family values,' here is an amazing woman who not only values her own gay family, but also emphasizes the value of all LGBT families. Abigail Garner convincingly establishes these families as vital, vibrant parts of our society. ”
— Candace Gingrich, author of Accidental Activist, Manager of HRC's National Coming Out Project
“In this warm, insightful book, Abigail Garner addresses the most challenging issues that arise among gay parents and their families.”
— Noelle Howey, author of Dress Codes and editor of Out of the Ordinary: Essays on Growing Up With Gay, Lesbian, and Transgendered Parents
“Families Like Mine does for LGBT families what And the Band Played On did for AIDS.”
— Esera Tualo, retired NFL star linebacker
“Children of gay parents shoot from the hip in Abigail Garner’s indispensable Families Like Mine.”
— Vanity Fair
“Compellingly written, this should quickly become a mainstay resource.”
“Perhaps the highest praise a book such as this can receive is to be called honest. And it is. The courageous author…paint[s] a realistic portrait of the triumphs and difficulties these kinships experience.”
— Cleveland Plain Dealer
“Smart and impassioned... this is the new essential reading for LGBT families.”
— The Advocate
“Garner moves the LGBT parenting dialogue into new territory.... Compassionate and insight[ful], a valuable resource for parents.”
— In the Family magazine
“Garner is savvy and thorough…Families Like Mine has enough heart…to make it a must-read.”
— Bitch Magazine