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“Beautiful, poignant, pitch perfect and accessible . . . a road-map for clinicians, patients, family members, and caregivers”—BJ Miller, MD, author of A Beginner’s Guide to the End: Practical Advice for Living Life and Facing Death

This groundbreaking book encourages us to face our fears and engage in an open, honest dialog about death.  Here, longtime “death doula” Henry Fersko-Weiss helps the dying discover meaning in their lives, express that meaning in powerful and beautiful legacies, and plan for their final days with dignity.

The doula approach to death emphasizes thoughtful planning for how the last days should look, sound, and feel, and encourages the use of touch, guided imagery, and ritual during the dying process. It also calls for around-the-clock vigil care, which provides emotional and spiritual support for both the dying person and their loved ones.

About the Author


Henry Fersko-Weiss, LCSW, is executive director of the International End-of-Life Doula Association. In 2003, Henry created the very first End-of-Life Doula Program in the US at a hospice in New York City and has built many other programs based on his model. His work has been featured in the New York Times, the San Francisco Chronicle, and elsewhere. He is on the faculty of the Open Center’s Art of Dying Institute. Visit him at www.inelda.org.

Praise For…


“Warm stories of client experiences give permission to imagine a death experienced with as much humanity as the rest of life, with profound results for everyone affected by the event. Fersko-Weiss’s perspective is a desperately needed reminder of the value of facing life’s most difficult transitions with open eyes and hearts.” – Publishers Weekly Starred Review
— Publishers Weekly

“Written for families and caregivers, this book provides a clear overview of end-of-life doulas and a compelling case for their wider use in terminal care.  It also supplies some wonderful ideas and techniques for all readers who want to have a more peaceful, meaningful death for themselves or their loved ones.” – Library Journal Starred Review
— Library Journal

“This brave, reassuring book succeeds at eliminating the negativity surrounding death, reframing what seems like a passive, painful experience as an active journey that ‘captures the concentrated fragrance of a person’s life, its sweetest flavor.’” –Foreword Reviews
 
— Foreword Reviews

"This is a pitch perfect, accessible book on an otherwise inaccessible subject. Just what the world needs right now. Mr. Fersko-Weiss points us to all sorts of ways to find meaning at the end of life, or ways to create it. His beautiful and poignant stories can be used as road-maps, not only for clinicians, but also for patients, family members, or caregivers who wish to stay connected through to the end of life." - BJ Miller, MD, author of A Beginner’s Guide to the End
— BJ Miller, MD

“An inspired and practical guide on accompanying those on the precipice of death. Henry reaches into his years of experience in leading doula trainings to provide the reader with invaluable tools. He focuses in on the essential non-medical elements that really matter like deep listening, sitting vigil, establishing a calm and receptive environment and facilitating meaningful rituals. Lots of wisdom in these pages.” - Frank Ostaseski, author Five Invitations: Discovering What Death Can Teach Us About Living Fully, founder of the Metta Institute and co-founder of the Zen Hospice Project
— Frank Ostaseski

“An extraordinary contribution to the care of the dying. Through story and instruction, Henry Fersko-Weiss offers his great wisdom on how we can offer meaningful care that can not only ease an individual’s dying but provide consolation to family and friends as they cope with grief and loss.” - Kenneth J. Doka, author of Grief is a Journey
— Kenneth J. Doka

“Henry’s calm, practical, and pioneering book is an excellent guide for those wishing to learn how to be a doula for the dying, whether formal or informal, which will certainly also make them an inspiration for the consciously living. This book should be taken up with great relief to guide us from now, while vibrantly alive, and certainly at the time of transition.” - Robert A. F. Thurman, Jey Tsong Khapa professor of Indo-Tibetan Buddhist Studies at Columbia University and author of Infinite Life and Man of Peace
— Robert A. F. Thurman

“This book describes an approach to end of life care that might best be described as witness. The doula program described here provides skilled, compassionate, mindful presence to people at the end of life and their loved ones, helping guide them to an experience of dying which affirms their lives and enriches the lives of those left behind. I wish all patients had access to this amazing program.” - Leslie Blackhall, Section Chief for Palliative Medicine and Associate Professor of Medicine at the University of Virginia School of Medicine
— Leslie Blackhall

“As a pioneer in the work of improving end-of-life care, Henry Fersko-Weiss has written a remarkable book. Drawing from decades of work with the dying, Fersko-Weiss offers up stories and insights as he humbly chronicles his own journey of crafting a much-needed and innovative approach to end-of-life care. Caring for the Dying is medicine for a world where far too many of us experience ‘unfortunate’ deaths. A must read.” - Amy Wright Glenn, author of Birth, Breath, and Death: Meditations on Motherhood, Chaplaincy, and Life as a Doula
— Amy Wright Glenn

“Part guidebook, part memoir, Caring for the Dying introduces us to the path of end-of-life doulas who accompany people on their journey from this life. Doulas fulfill our collective commitment to care well for one another through the most difficult and vulnerable times and they bear witness to the inherent worth and dignity of every human being. This book shows us what death can be like in a healthy human society and by turns alleviates anxiety and lifts the spirit.” - Ira Byock, MD, founder & chief medical officer, Providence Institute for Human Caring, author of Dying WellThe Four Things That Matter Most, and The Best Care Possible
— Ira Bycock, MD

“This is a necessary book for anyone who cares for others, the living and the dying. As one of the pioneers of our contemporary age, Henry has much to teach us.” - Sensei Koshin Paley Ellison, Co-Founder and Co-Executive Director of the New York Zen Center for Contemplative Care and Co-Editor of Awake at the Bedside: Contemplative Teachings on Palliative and End of Life Care
— Sensei Koshin Paley Ellison

“Throughout my eighteen years working in hospice care, I have come to desire one thing when it comes to my own death: Choice. Henry Fersko-Weiss has given us all another choice when he created a program known as the Death Doula approach to end of life. Caring for the Dying supports my theory that our death can be designed to reflect special moments, our values, our spiritual briefs and even our personality. The Death Doula approach is the bridge that can make death an experience and not just a destination.” - Kimberly C. Paul, Death by Design Podcast, Vice President of Communications and Outreach at the Lower Cape Fear Hospice
— Kimberly C. Paul

“Caring for the Dying will not only become a standard for those wishing to train in the way of the doula.  It will be a book that answers questions for those who have been in the presence of death and a source book and support for those who wish to bring such a compassionate and caring role into one of life’s most challenging and sacred moments.” - Robert Sachs, LISW, author of Rebirth Into Pure Land and Perfect Endings, and Board Member of Hospice of San Luis Obispo
— Robert Sachs

“Please read this book if you or someone you love may die one day. Sacred moments surrounding the last days of life are explicitly delineated in this easy-to-read book which is full of stories from the author’s experience as a professional doula.” - Roberta Temes, Ph.D., author of Living with an Empty Chair: A Guide Through Grief
— Roberta Temes. Ph.D.

“An inspiring and moving collection  of end-of-life scenarios illustrating how we can face life’s final passage with dignity and thoughtfulness. Fersko-Weiss provides a glimpse at the true meaning of a good death. Essential reading for anyone who wants to create a meaningful experience for themselves or someone they care about.” - Fredda Wasserman, co-author with Norine Dresser of Saying Goodbye to Someone You Love: Your Emotional Journey Through End of Life and Grief


— Fredda Wasserman

“In Caring for the Dying, Henry Fersko-Weiss brings the reader into his personal journey in supporting a meaningful way of death and dying and his evolving work in the end-of-life-doula movement. The principles and techniques of an end-of-life doula are interwoven with Henry’s experiences in a way that makes this book inspirational and helps lessen the mystery and fear of death for any reader who wishes to face their own death with less fear and a focus on meaning.” - Kris Kington-Barker, executive director of Hospice of San Luis Obispo County
— Kris Kington-Baker

“What inspires Henry’s eminently practical book is his well-informed insight that we can live and die knowing that we are part of a larger inclusivity. In vigiling, in legacy work, in his guidance on deep listening, Henry teaches us that our living and our dying weave us to one another.” - Marco Mascarin, PhD, RP, co-founder of the Contemplative End of Life Care program at the Institute of Traditional Medicine
— Marco Mascarin, PhD, RP

“There is an abundance of literature on death and dying, but there is little that can compare with the poignancy, compassion and wisdom that Henry Fersko-Weiss brings to the subject. Drawing on his vast experience as a death doula, he offers practical information and inspirational anecdotes that serve to guide others in the art of being present and caring for the person who is dying. Midwifing death in this way honors the dying person, their life and their legacy. A godsend for anyone who wishes to prepare for their own death or midwife the death of someone they love.” - Michael Barbato, MD, retired palliative care physician, researcher, teacher, and author of Midwifing Death
— Michael Barbato, MD

“A thoughtful and instructive text on how doulas can help people die as they would wish and a guide for families as they cope with what may be the most stressful period of their lives. Illustrated by his actual cases and those of fellow doulas, Fersko-Weiss has created a useful resource for consumers and professionals dealing with the complicated topic of death and dying.” - Don Pendley, director of hospice and palliative care at the Home Care and Hospice Association of NJ
— Don Pendley

“Essential reading for all of humanity. Caring for the Dying is life changing in how we view and care for our loved ones as they prepare for their death. Henry’s touching stories pull the curtain back to give you an intimate look at what is possible at the end of life.” - Debra Pascali-Bonaro, DONA International doula trainer
— Debra Pascali-Bonaro

“This is a lovely contribution to the growing field of care for the dying—and the dying person’s loved ones—with both wisdom and compassion. Arising from the author’s intimate experience at the end of life, it offers a caring sensitivity well worth considering.” - Kathleen Dowling Singh, author of The Grace in Dying, The Grace in Aging, and The Grace in Living
— Kathleen Dowling Singh

“Caring for a loved one and witnessing the dying process is both an act of courage and a privilege—as painful as the process might be. This book, Caring for the Dying, can make all the difference in appreciating the process, recognizing through the many stories how natural death is, and helping ultimately to heal and move forward from loss.” - Judy Tatelbaum, LCSW, grief therapist and author of The Courage to Grieve and You Don’t Have to Suffer
— Judy Tatelbaum

“Henry Fersko-Weiss’s helpful book reflects over two decades of experience facilitating meaningful and instructive transitions of the dying, offering the potential for tremendous growth and maturation through the experience. An indispensable gift for family members and for those interested in facilitating such experiences.” --Eben Alexander, MD, and author of Living in a Mindful Universe, Proof of Heaven, and The Map of Heaven
 
— Eben Alexander, MD
Product Details
ISBN: 9781590035023
ISBN-10: 159003502X
Publisher: Red Wheel
Publication Date: August 1st, 2020
Pages: 256
Language: English